Frequent tearing of the delicate vaginal skin can be distressing, especially when trying to conceive. I highly recommend consulting your gynecologist to rule out infections or skin conditions like lichen sclerosus. For immediate relief and healing, you can apply a thin layer of plain petroleum jelly (Vaseline) or pure coconut oil to the external area daily. During intercourse, avoid standard lubricants, as they can hinder sperm motility. Instead, use a fertility-friendly lubricant (such as Pre-Seed) to reduce friction and protect the skin. Avoid harsh soaps, gently pat the area dry, and allow the skin to fully heal before trying again.